Editors letter
I have been battling for the past 20 years for my children’s rights, and also mine as a father . For years I looked for resource and ways to better our chance in this system . It has been a long and costly venture , without ever seeing any glimpse of a light at the end of the tunnel.
Throughout my search I been encourage, without guidance , supplied resource that didn’t applied , and at time mislead by preconceived idea and misconception opinions and suggestions, adding to my exasperation and distress . Like most of you in the later year with the event of the internet , I have search and research all that I could find in order to give me hope ,and answer to my questions.
Although most website are genuine about their ideologies and intentions , I found that too many website concentrate on one or another particular issues. Some are more personal, some are aim at changing the family law ,and other totally express their rage against the unfairness of the system .
Mainly I been very happy with the fact that so many website have come out of the woodwork to shed the light on this major problem, and it is a society problem. We are no doubt in a major transition , a new level of awareness and a new way of life , you can argue the point but , the main fact remain .The women’s rights movement is actually the birth for what we are experiencing today , don’t get me wrong , I do not mean negatively , It was merely the precursor of the time to come , a new revolution in gender definition.
No longer men were to be the sole hunter gatherer (provider) and women be the housewife caring to the home her husband and raising the children. We are on the point of a complete equalization of the gender ‘s responsibility .After all these years , now we have to redefine those same gender .
Of course women will ultimately always be the one baring children .It no longer exclusively gives them all rights on the child after birth. Now ,where things changes is in raising and caring for the children. Men are more and more an equal participant in all decision making and the upbringing of the children’s. And no longer want to be on the sideline and remain “payers” and mear accessories in their children's lifes.
Women being in the workforce , with all rights, has in the end created a lack in parenting ,the Single mother uses of daycares and the electronic babysitter ( TV, videogames … ) are now custom to give them time to accomplish the normal task at hand . And society have ,for the most reflected the lack of discipline and value instated to our children, statistic shows that more and more children are becoming more violent and more likely to commit crime before they themselves becomes adult , and again for the most part it shows that children of separated parents are more likely (8 to 1) to recidivate .Not forgetting that school are now left dealing with major comportment issues but also with less resource themselves , just look at the Ritalin* revolution since the 80’s.You don’t have to take my word for it , all you have to do is read the data base from statistic Canada or the USA.
Now I have also in my research, out of transparency ,looked up women’s right groups , especially the one who opposed the men’s movement to their right as father , and I listen to their objections and criticism . For the most hard-line , they totally reject the equality and join custody request of men ‘s group . They fundamentally believe that children needs father solely as “ accessory to the child as long as they do not try to intervene or compete with the mother affection for the child ,even placing step father as primary “ totaly erasing all of a fathers right to any of his offspring. And they also fight hard to make everyone believe that custodial father, as soon as they get the child in their care are passing the responsibility of raising the child to their new spouses. In a word that we are completely incapable and insensitive to attend our children’s needs . In the other hands,Other support the movement with reserve to the limit of the right of father in order to avoid the infiltration of the true abuser and molester that could slip through the cracks . One thing is for sure we are in the battle of the sexes when it comes to the children’s welfare .A war that will take many years to come if we all continue to fight our own battle separately.
We do believe that women’s have their right and fought hard to achieve the degree of freedom and safety that they deserve , but the major problem that came out of over empowering women is that we are left with a complete unbalance of the family law system as we know it . Leaving room for new affliction , like PAS parental alienation syndrome and (MMS) malicious mother syndrome .both that are documented and backed by facts and statistic ,and finally recognized by some judge across the country .
Again statistic shows that due to the lack of education in the subject and cause of misconception men are believed to abandon their legitimate effort to protect their right as an equal parent. Especially due to the “legal bully” mothers, whom all they have to do to rip a child from the father is to scream abuses,falsly accusing good men. and without thorough investigation , Men are sent into a costly and impossible battle , and where most men tend to abandon before even trying to fight these false allegations .
And in deed they are a major unbalance of power . Statistic again show that only 7 % of father are the custodian of the children ,
And the affliction is perpetrated also in the child support sistem ,again based on statistic Canada . Out of 93% of men that are paying child support, for what ever reason legitimate or not , only 12% of men default on payment . But 80% , out of women that doesn’t have soul custody ,and are ordered to pay child support, default themselves . All this not including a major unbalance in the children support definition and charts, without forgetting their unbelievable punishment and practice. A truly and clear bias system .
This site is not for personal issues to be debated , but a consortium for all groups to define what we are looking for , and to take action so that we achieve this common goal ,
EQUALITY OF THE GENDERS AND THE RIGHTS AS PARENTS TO BE AN EQUITABLE PART IN RAISING OUR CHILDREN. IN A SYSTEM TRANSPARENT ,WITHOUT SEXISM AND BIAS .
Jerry Michaud